NSG 001: Jamie Cooper Interview

The New Southern Gentleman Podcast

The very first episode of The New Southern Gentleman Podcast, featuring an interview with the Country Rover himself, Jamie Cooper.FullSizeRender

In this episode you’ll learn:

  • About the time Jamie wrestled a bear
  • What he thinks about regret
  • How he’s managed to stay in TV for 40 years!

 

Jamie’s website

 

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A Southern Gentleman Looks at 50

route 50There’s a rule that you have to write a post about what you’ve learned in life on certain birthdays, so here’s what I’ve learned in 50 years about being a southern gentleman

  1. Measure twice, cut once
  2. Spend less than your earn
  3. Treat others the way you want to be treated
  4. Take care of your stuff
  5. Remember, stuff happens
  6. Pass it On
  7. Trust, But Verify
  8. Count the cost
  9. It is what it is
  10. Eventually you must get something done
  11. Love God and love others

Wonder what I’ll learn in the next 50 years?

Every Pastor Needs a Red Foreman

redI love local church pastors. Mainly because it’s the hardest job and toughest leadership challenge out there.

The other reasons is I did it for 11 years. So

  • I know how hard you work
  • I know how much your family has to sacrifice for you to do what you do.
  • I know how tough it can be to preach/teach sometimes 3 different sermons per week but be compared to whatever famous preacher who has 2 full time research assistants, an executive pastor who actually runs the church, an unlimited media budget and teaches 36 Sundays per year, your people watch on TV or listen to their podcast during the week.
  • I know how tough it is to grit your teeth when a church member who’s been fired from 3 jobs or has kids who are totally out of control, makes a snide remark about your leadership.
  • I know how tough it is to go visit a church member’s 3rd cousin twice removed before their life-threatening ingrown toenail removal.

I get it all of that.

But (you saw that coming a mile away didn’t you?). You have GOT to stop dodging, ducking, and flat out refusing accountability. You NEED it. You should WANT it.

The New Testament is full of examples of leaders submitting to authority (Acts 15 is a great example). The whole biblical design of a local church is for it to be lead by multiples Elders. All loving, submitting to, supporting, and yes sometimes even rebuking each other.

I know this can go bad. It went bad for me. But not because the biblical model was broken, it was because all 3 of us were broken.

Don’t sidestep this by saying you have an outside board of accountability. That never works. There are tons of famous pastors who found this out the hard way. I’ve seen it happen to several friends who weren’t all that famous. Believe me, it’s not a pretty to watch. In fact, not one of these men had someone in their church who could walk in their office, close the door and tell them they were being a dumbass. Every pastor needs a Red Foreman.

Get 2 or 3 1 Timothy 3:1-7 and Titus 1:5-9 qualified men who love you, love Jesus and His church and want what’s best for all of those and then submit to their leadership and accountability. It’ll take time to develop the level of trust that’s required but that’s OK. It’s better to spend 6 months or year doing that, than spending 30 minutes on stage confessing to major sin or your church having to listen to an announcement that you’ve been fired.

If you’re still not convinced, do it is so the haters will have multiple targets when they decide to open fire.

A 7-Day Challenge

Radio Shack TRS-80 What?

What you put in your mind and body will come out. Every time.

Yep, it does matter who you hang out with. The music you listen to does have a long term affect on you. You also need to be careful about what you watch because it doesn’t have to be porn to have a negative impact on you. There are tons of “news” shows that are less about news and more about getting you to believe a certain world view or support an agenda.

So What?

Every guy has a great deal of control over what he allows to get in his body and mind. That means it’s up to me to decid if I’m going to have a donut or not. It’s up to me to decide if I click on THAT website on my phone while I’m sitting alone in my office. It’s up to me to decide who I spend time with, what voices I let speak into my life.

I started college in 1982, which was the dawn of the personal computer age. My freshman year, I took a class in BASIC programming on a Radio Shack TRS-80 and I still remember the very first thing the professor taught us about a computer. He said a computer was the dumbest machine ever invented, it only gave back what you put in. Or Garbage In/Garbage Out.

Same thing with me. I can’t expect my mind and body to do better than what I feed it. That’s what I need to make the right choices about what I allow in.

Now What?

If you’re not where you want to be in life, maybe you need to do in inventory of your inputs by doing a week long inventory:

The 7 Day Challenge

Keep an honest inventory for the next 7 days of everything you listen to, watch, read, and people you spend time with.

Now take this inventory and compare it with where you want to be in life. Where are you falling short of your goals? Do you see any correlations? If you’re honest, you will.

Now the only question is, will you have the guts to make changes?